I know that I tend to be overly serious, but I need some help.
I'm a Mother. I have the three best kids in the world. They amaze me, and scare me. Last night Chris (he's 13) started asking questions. TOUGH QUESTIONS!!! Questions that don't have easy answers.
I don't think questions are bad. Accepting answers, that's hard. During our discussion with Chris yesterday, he cried. At first this bothered Greg, but it just makes me love Chris more. He is very genuine. He has a very tender heart.
How do I help Chris understand that everyone sins? How do I help him understand that because we all sin, we are all more alike than different? How do I help him understand that when God looks at his children, he doesn't see all our faults, but sees all our potential? How do I help a child understand principles that I don't really grasp myself?
I openly admit that I have had (and am currently experiencing) a trial of faith. I seem to have more questions than answers these days. I can tell that Greg is frustrated, and I fear that my stubbornness is hurting my children. Maybe my ignorance is what's really the problem. Why didn't I prepare for the day when my kids ask questions with impossible answers? I knew this day would come, and I feel so unprepared!
3 comments:
Take it more personal with him. Talk to him about your relationship and how you don't like it when he does something wrong, but you still love him as a person. This is how our Heavenly Father views us and sins---He doesn't like our sins or the fact that we have sinned, but He still loves us and wants what is best for us. It is the human side in ourselves that makes us not want to be forgiven, we feel like we have done something so terrible that we shouldn't be loved ever again. Besides 13 is a hard age. They have a hard time in their peer groups and so they take it to mean that they are unloveable some how. Good luck
Jill,
I hope I am not offering this out of turn, but here goes...
When you talk to Chris just be honest and matter-of-fact with him. When you testify of the gospel truths, the Spirit will come and confirm it. That Spirit will help Chris understand while at the same time help to heal your wounds too. Sometimes you just have to trust that the Lord will guide you in your life, even if you may not feel particulary worthy at that time.
Jill, when my kids ask me questions that I don't have the answers to I tell them honestly that I don't know the answer and let's find out together. This has been a great growing experience for me and has brought me closer to my kids. Dalin and I have had some wonderful moments studying things together to both learn.
Good luck and remember that you are a good mother and whatever you do will be correct.
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